WTF: Decisions

I have just a ton of anger right now and if I don't vent than I may explode.

This latest crap started 1/1/09. J's sil called me to say that she was at their house and K was drunk and possibly stoned. It was after 9 pm and the four kids were up. I said that I would be right there. I was almost to the house when my cell rang. It was the police they were at the house. I got there and cops everywhere. It seemed that sil and mil decided that J might come home and be angry so they called the police. Now, J has been a pot smoker for the last 25 years. As soon as our state voted to legalize pot he immediately bought some plants and start to grow them. He also filed for a medical marijuana card. This was limbo time, the law had not gone into effect yet. So the charges were running a drug house and child abuse, because the kids were living in the house. I took custody of the kids. 7,7,6 and 2. I kept them for three months while K went through drug rehab. I drove the three oldest back and forth to school, over a hundred miles a day. We paid $12,000. for a lawyer for the both of them. In October, they took a plea. To stay out of jail they plead to felony child abuse and running a drug house. K received 6 months probation and J received 4 years probation. The DHS had given them back custody in March and closed the case in Sept. In August they got into a fight and K called the police. Even though she didn't file a complaint they arrested him for domestic violence.

In October my husband was with them at court(I don't do court). They left the court, picked up the kids and drove to a C's house. He is a major grower and J helps him and gets his cut as product. He smoked a couple bowls and K had a few beers. Now in the mean time he has received his medicinal marijuana card. They were driving home and for some reason the police ran the license and it came back that K had a warrant for outstanding traffic violation. In the car were 4 kids, a dog and two plants. K called me, I was at my sisters visiting, so was very close by. My youngest daughter was here from SC visiting. The two of us went to where they had been pulled over. COPS everywhere, both J & K in handcuffs in separate cars. The kids freaking out. We took the kids back to my house, the parents went to jail. Since they had only been out of court 6 hours and were arrested, we choose not to bail them out. We have told them on several occasions that we were done giving them money. They managed to get friends and her family to bail them out, but the CPS had been contacted. They file a petition to have the children removed. The kids have been living with us since. We decided to go through getting a license for foster parenting because that would provide us with some extra money.

To be continued

Sunday

I sit here and wonder what went wrong with my life. Today J & K came over to visit the kids. I talked to K on Wednesday and she expressed concern that the only way they could  see the kids was if we picked them up. That is 100 miles round trip. Ok, fine! I called J last night to make sure he still wanted his dad to pick them up. He said yes and asked what time. I told him around 10 am. He called this morning and said that they had lost power during the night and the house was cold. He wanted to take a shower and have his dad pick them up an hour later.

They arrived about 1pm. smoked a cigarette outside then came in. I went downstairs and specifically told them that the kids had lunch and would not be able to have a snack until 3:00. I also stressed that they had already had juice for the day. I repeated this and explained that, yes, it is 100% juice and healthy but it also contains a lot of sugar. N1 had 6 cavities when I took him to the dentist two weeks ago. I then retreated to my "happy place" so that they could parent their kids.

At 3:30 they announced that they had to go because K had a bladder infection and she need to go get something for it (on a Sunday???)  I went and put G down for a nap and the boys went to a friends house. Later when I was getting dinner, I opened the refrigerator to get the milk and noticed the bottle of juice was missing. I asked and the boys said that mom had given it to them! WTF!!! Do I have to lock everything up.  Over Christmas I let them spend the weekend here with the kids. They left on Monday and my bottle of Xanax was missing. They denied taking it. They are drug addicts, I am suppose to believe them. I now keep my medication locked up and hidden. They also grabbed some food and garbage bags.

I don't want to be raising these kids. I love them dearly but at 54 I want to take it easy and enjoy the quiet. I have been raising kids for 37 years without a break. I want me time.

I am just writing this to let some steam out. I may come back and explain what is going on.

Thanks

...K

The Beginning

I am a wife, mother, grandmother, sister, daughter, niece and friend. I am a stay at home grandmother of an 11 year old (going on 25) granddaughter.

I spend most of my time on my laptop because I have a PhD in procrastination! I also am depressed! I have lots of reasons to be depressed but am working on those issues with therapy and medication. I hate to cook or clean but love a clean house and to eat. I am working on that too.

I am just starting this blog thing and probably won't blog often (because I am not a writer). I am a reader. I read blogs of all nature though, I don't often comment because I am not very witty. Most people who comment have stolen all my idea's and thoughts before I even get there.

So this is just out there in case someone sees that I subscribe to them and want to know about me. I may start writing more, due to a s**t pile of stuff in my head.

Hopefully this little bet in not enough to annoy the crap out of you and you may come back. I will try to bore you.

Thanks

...K